Monday, June 29, 2009

Prayer Challenge Day 28: His Self Image

Chapter 28 is focusing on praying on our husband’s self image.

In today’s society self image is everything isn’t it?  The message out there is that we are to believe in our selves and be true to ourselves.  We are supposed to have a healthy self image and then we will be truly happy.

As my grandfather used to say, “rubbish!”  We don’t not gain a healthy self image by believing in ourselves, that is what caused all the trouble to begin with.  It is only we we believe in God and know who we are in Him that we can have an accurate view of who we are.  We are created in His image, but Satan wants us to believe something different.

Satan want us to believe that our identity comes from what we have done.  But God says our identity comes from what God has done for us.(Romans 8:31-34)

Satan says that our identity comes from what people say about us, but God says that our identity comes from what God says about you.(John 1:2, Eph 1:5)

We can become so washed over by society’s crazy message that we can fall for the lie and “lose” our identity.

If your husband is one of those who is troubled in trying to find his identity, your prayers can be a very powerful part in his journey.  It will not be an over night change.  These things take time.  But the first steps your husband must make in becoming confident in who he is, is knowing who God is.  As believers, our identity is in Christ.

Stormie had this to say;

God says our first steps are to be toward Him: seeking His face, following His laws, putting Him first and self-centered pursuits last.  When we line up with Him, He leads the way and all we have to do is follow.  As we look to Him, the glory of His image gets imprinted upon us.  When our self image gets so wrapped up in God that we lose ourselves in the process, we’re free.  We want that liberty for our husband's as well as ourselves.

You husband will never see who he really is until he sees who God really is.

Stay on your knees for your husband.  Pray the Word and pray specifically.  It can be life changing, for you & for your husband.

Prayer Challenge Day 27: His Obedience

Dear Moms thank you for hanging in there with me as we come to the end of our 30 day challenge to pray for our husbands.  It has been a blessed time as we have been in a concert of prayer for our husbands.

Today’s chapter is praying for our husbands obedience.

I have been reading a small book by Andrew Murray called, The Blessings of Obedience.  It is a short book, but has been packed full of great truth concerning our obedience to God.

He says this concerning obedience…

Obedience is constant dependence on a moment-by-moment fellowship and operation of God,a hearing and seeing of what God speaks, does and shows.

The very essence of salvation is obedience to God.  Christ as the Obedient One saves us as His obedient ones.  Whether in His suffering on earth or in His glory in heaven, Christ’s heart is set on obedience.

Our obedience is a really big deal to God.  He has made it clear that there are blessings in store for the obedient.  In Deuteronomy 11:26-28 the importance of our obedience is summed up in this way…

I set before you…A blessing, if you obey…And a curse, if you will not obey.

Be careful not to pray for the blessing, but to rather to be concerned with obedience.  God will take care of the blessing.  We should be more concerned with how we can obey and please our God than the blessings that follow obedience.

 

If you love me, you will obey what I command (John 14:15)

Jesus is talking to the disciples here in John 14.  The love that is used in this verse is the Greek word Agape.  This is a devoted love.  The same love that is used in Deuteronomy 6:5, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your strength.” This is the same love that Jesus asked Peter if he had for him.(John 21)  It is a devoted love, not a brotherly love.  Matthew Henry calls it a “sincere love”. 

Why am I focusing so much on this word love?  Because if you have this type of love for your God you will want to obey him.  If you have this type of love for him when you don’t obey him you will be in agony over your disobedience, because you will recognize that you have been unfaithful to your God.

In Galatians 5:22, the fruit of the Spirit are listed and this agape love is the first listed as a fruit of the Spirit.  You will be known by your fruit.  When you know your God and you are filled with His Spirit, agape love will be a natural outpouring from you and obedience will follow.

I love what Stormie writes in chapter 27 about how to deal with disobedience in your husband.  She writes;

If you clearly observe your husband walking down a wrong path, should you way something?  If so, how much should you say and when is the right time to say it?  The best way I’ve found to proceed is to take it to God first and weigh it on His scales.  He may instruct you to just be quiet and pray.  But if He does direct you to speak to your husband about the matter, there will be a far greater chance of him hearing God’s voice somewhere in your words if you’ve prayed before you speak. Praying that his eyes be opened to the truth and his heart convicted will be far more effective than you telling him what to do.

This can be a scary thing if you are considering approaching your husband about his disobedience.  Remember to cover it in prayer first.  Don’t let your emotions lead you.  If you have a mentor you can go to, seek her advice and ask her to pray with you about what to do.  As you pray for your husband’s obedience, pray about your own obedience also.   The Lord has shown me many areas of disobedience in my own life as I prayed through this chapter for my husband.

Blessings in your prayers!

Friday, June 26, 2009

Prayer Challenge Day 26; His Deliverance

Today’s prayer for our husband is praying for his deliverance.

Because we are created with a sin nature, we all need to be delivered from that.  Most times we need deliverance from something in our past that we have held on to.  Satan loves nothing more than to use our past to create shame and blame in our lives.  We are held in bondage by strongholds.

Are there any strongholds that your husband is struggling with?  Sometimes we may not think of them as strongholds, but if they keep us from having a close relationship with Christ, then they are strongholds.

My husband has been on a very painful spiritual journey for several years.  It has been very hard for me to watch him go through this time, but I know that it is necessary so that the Lord can break the strongholds my husband had.  The fruit that has come from this time of breaking the spirit is that now he truly leads our home in all ways. He has a deepening love for the Lord that he did not have before.  He has an unquenchable thirst for the wisdom and knowledge of God. Though we still struggle, my husband now feels a freedom that I don’t think he thought he could ever experience.  He now has an unexplainable peace and joy that our family truly benefits from.

What does your husband need deliverance from? 

The prayer in our book was excellent (pg179-180), I would encourage you to use it as a guide in praying for your husband that he will find deliverance.

Part of her prayer…

LORD, You have said to call upon You in the day of trouble and You will deliver us (Ps 50:15).  I call upon You know and ask that You would work deliverance in my husband’s life.  Deliver him from anything that binds him.  Set him free from   (name a specific thing)  .  Deliver him quickly and be a rock of refuge and a fortress of defense to save him (Ps 31:2)  Lift him away from the hands of the enemy(Ps 31:15).

Prayer Challenge day 17 - 25

I am behind in my blog posts on the challenge and can’t get caught up at this time, so I am linking you to Amy’s blog.  She has such wonderful insight and had blessed me through this challenge.

Day 17 – His Relationships

Day 18 – His Fatherhood

Day 19 – His Past

Day 20 – His Attitude

Day 21 – His Marriage

Day 22 – His Emotions

Day 23 – His Walk

Day 24 – His Talk

Day 25 – His Repentance

 

I hope to blog on these later, but just can’t right now like I want to.  Today’s chapter is His Deliverance and I hope to have a post finished & up soon.

Prayer Challenge day 17 - 25

I am behind in my blog posts on the challenge and can’t get caught up at this time, so I am linking you to Amy’s blog.  She has such wonderful insight and had blessed me through this challenge.

Day 17 – His Relationships

Day 18 – His Fatherhood

Day 19 – His Past

Day 20 – His Attitude

Day 21 – His Marriage

Day 22 – His Emotions

Day 23 – His Walk

Day 24 – His Talk

Day 25 – His Repentance

 

I hope to blog on these later, but just can’t right now like I want to.  Today’s chapter is His Deliverance and I hope to have a post finished & up soon.

Prayer Challenge Day 16; His Priorities

Here are the thoughts of a friend of mine on praying for our husbands priorities.

 

Amy writes;

 

I just love it when Stormie gets right to the heart of the chapter in the first paragraph and this one certainly lays it all out there:

Men have many different ideas about what their priorities should be.  But every wife feels she should be at the top of her husband's list --- right under God.  I've found, however, that if a wife wants her husband's priorities to be in that kind of order, she has to make sure HERS are in the order as well.  In other words, if you want your husband to place you as a priority over work, children, friends, and activities, you need to do the same for him.  If God and spouse aren't clearly top priorities in your life, you husband will have less incentive to make them so in his. -Stormie OMartian (p.127)

 

To read the rest of what Amy wrote go to Dandelion Seeds.

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Prayer Challenge Day 15: His Reputation

Today’s chapter in The Power of a Praying Wife is focused on praying for your husband’s reputation.

I think as wives, we have a lot to do with our husband’s reputation.  Proverbs 31:23 tells us,

Her husband is respected at the city gate where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

Why is her husband respected at the city gate?  She is known as a woman of virtue.  She knows what her role as his wife is and she carries it out very well.  She is minding her own business, not hanging out at the city well gossiping about the new family in town.  She is about her business caring for her family and serving others in the community.  She is not her husband’s doormat, she is his companion.

1 Corinthians 11:7

…but the woman is the glory of her husband

A simplified definition of “glory” in this case is that we are to make our husbands look good.  Just as we are to glorify God in all we do, we are to make God look good to others.  We let them see his goodness, grace & love through us.

How are we as Biblical wives to make our husbands look good to others so to add to his reputation in a good way?

  • Speech – How do you talk about your husband to other people?  Do you list all of his faults or do you praise him and compliment him? I know a lady who loves to tell me everything her husband does that frustrates her. I don’t remember every hearing her compliment him.  How sad!  Tell others how wonderful your husband is.
  • Home – How do you keep your home?  Is it chaotic and disorganized or is it peaceful & orderly.  What kind of home do you think your husband wants to come home to everyday after work?  You might want to ask him.
  • Your appearance – How do you keep yourself?  Do you dress sloppy with un-kept hair & face or do you dress nice & neat?  Even worse, do you dress immodestly?  Are your clothes too tight & shirts too low in the front?  I served with our Jr. High girls for a short time at our church and modesty was always an issue.  But I noticed that most of the girls who came to church in short skirts & low cut blouses were only dressing like their mothers.  Your appearance reflects your husband and what others will think of him.  What kind of reputation do you want your husband to have?

Your prayers for your husband’s reputation are important also.  I like to pray that any attacks that are made towards my husbands reputation will be blocked and not successful. 

Pray:

  • your husband will be sensitive to the Holy Spirit’s leading and prompting to guide him away from snares to his reputation.
  • the enemy’s attempts to ruin him would be thwarted.
  • your husband will be faithful in meeting with God everyday so as to be prepared for what may come his way.

Thank you for sharing in this journey with me of praying for our husbands.  His reputation is at stake.

 

Monday, June 22, 2009

Planning a SONshine Summer

My friend Jody Capehart(author of a million books, excellent & very funny speaker to teachers & parents everywhere) has a blog & I wanted to share part of a post on her blog with you.  It is full of practical things to do with your kids this summer & her godly wisdom is sprinkled through out.
 
by Jody Capehart @ Capehart Connection

When I was growing up, there were natural book ends to the summer. It began after Memorial Day and ended with Labor Day. I miss the simplistic boundaries of having 12 weeks for summer. But then I guess everything seemed simpler in the "good 'ole days" when summer did have more of those lazy, hazy days. Now the school year ends and before anyone has even poured a tall cool glass of lemonade, the frantic summer schedule begins.

Simplify Your Schedule

Select activities that are seasonal such as Vacation Bible School, swimming lessons and perhaps a summer camp if your child is that age. Look at the other activities and prayerfully consider the full impact of your choices.

As you embrace this summer, may I suggest making these a priority:

Pray. Commit the summer to the Lord. What does He want for you and your family this summer?

Read. Get a stack of good literature to read to and with your children. Set up a daily reading time every day. Yes, even with the older children, set aside a time for reading each day. Everyone grabs their favorite book, and read or you can read all together.

Slow down. We are on such a tight schedule during the school year. Use the summer to simply be with one another. Talk. Walk. Play. Enjoy one another.

PLANNING

"There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under heaven." (Ecclesiastes 3:1)

Remember: expectations can be enemies! We need to realize that everything we plan may not be as 'rich and meaningful' as it plays out in our mind. Have you ever planned that 'perfect family field trip', only to arrive and have your children whine for quarters to play the video games?

Let’s prioritize our priorities. Find quiet time each day for the Lord, and time to connect with our family instead of simply filling up each day with things to do.

Our personalities factor into the equation. In light of the DISC model, each personality type (and we are all unique combinations of these types) ‘brings to the summer table’ certain personality qualities that affect how we plan our summer. This is a simplistic view but perhaps you can see yourself in these personalities.

If you are a D (choleric or a lion-type), you tend to be more driving, decisive and determined to make it a great summer. You already have your plans done and you are off and running.

If you are the I (sanguine or otter), you may be inspired, interactive and interesting. You basically want to have fun with people this summer. To make plans seems boring to you because you simply want to know which people you are going to see this summer.

If you are the S (phlegmatic or golden retriever) you are the peacemaker, you can 'go with the flow' better than anyone. You are steady, stable and sweet-natured.

If you are the C (melancholy or beaver) you are the conscientious, careful and competent one who wants to plan every moment of the summer to "do it right". You are a perfectionist and since most things on planet earth don't measure up, you can get overwhelmed and 'bummed' out easily.

Each personality-type has strengths and weaknesses. No one personality type is right or wrong, we are simply different from one another.

 

To read the rest (because you don’t want to miss a word) go to Jody’s Blog.  She has a lot more to share with you.

Prayer Challenge Day 14; Praying for His Integrity

Integrity means “sound, complete, integrated.” To the extent that a person’s ethics and morality are integrated, that person has integrity. To the extent that a person’s ethics and morality are not integrated, that person lacks integrity.

 

I have found a few other views on a man’s integrity that I want to share with you. I hope that you are blessed & enlightened by them as I was.

 

R.C. Sproul says;

To be undone means to come apart at the seams, to be unraveled. To disintegrate means exactly what the word suggests, “dis integrate.” To integrate something is to put pieces together in a unified whole…. The word integrity…[suggests] a person whose life is whole or wholesome. In modern slang we say, “He’s got it all together.”

To have integrity is to be integrated, to be whole, to have it all together in a sense, to be consistent.

 One Holy Passion (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1987).

Kenneth Boa Th.M.; Ph.D.; D.Phil: had this to say;

When we live our entire lives before the face of God (corem deo) and practice a constant abiding in his presence, we realize that being people who do not manifest integrity is inconsistent with the dignity and destiny we’ve been called to. We have been called to live on a higher plane than that, to “live a life worthy of the calling [we] have received” (Ephesians 4:1), because, now, Christ is in us. He wants to live his life through us (Galatians 2:20); we are not only his representatives (2 Corinthians 5:20), as members of his church we are, in some mysterious way, his body (Ephesians 1:23; Colossians 1:24).

Now, that’s impossible unless he dwells in us, but therein lies the solution. In fact, this is the genius of the Christian life. Christianity is not a religion; it’s a relationship. Christianity is not about rules and regulations. Instead, it is the presence and power of a person who indwells us and promises to never leave us or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5).

I encourage you to pray that your husband would abide in Christ.  When we are constantly abiding in Him, our integrity is not in question.

Pray that he will consistently seek the face of Christ through daily prayer and Bible study.

Pray that he seek want to please God & do what is right.  A man can be highly valued among men, but detestable in God’s sight (Luke 16:15)

Praise the Lord that he has given you a husband who seeks to be whole and integrated with his Lord, consistent in his walk with the Lord.

Praise the Lord that your husband is by God & man as a man of integrity thus leaving a legacy of blessings for his children.

Prayer Challenge Day 13; Praying for His Trials

If you started this prayer challenge the first of June, you should actually be in chapter 20, His Attitude.  I am behind again because of leaving my book at my mothers house.  But, I have kept up with Amy’s blog and have continued to pray for my husband. 

If you are just now beginning the 30 day’s of prayer for your husband, WELCOME!  I pray you are very blessed.

I’m posting today on chapter 13, Praying for his trials.

We have lived in a season of trials so long that I can barely remember a time when we were not experiencing some type of trial.  God has taught us so much during this difficult season of our lives.  One of the greatest lessons I have learned is that my view of God determines my response to my trials.

Knowing my God, not just about him, is what makes the difference in how I respond and conduct myself in the midst of trials.  This doesn’t mean that I always respond with a joyful & thankful heart when yet another trial is laid upon our family.  I still have my days when I just want it all to go away.  But, I am quickly brought back by the gentle leading of the Holy Spirit and reminded that my God is Sovereign and he holds me in His hand.

Another lesson I have learned is that when I experience trials this is really an opportunity to experience my God in a way that I would have otherwise experienced.  What a glorious opportunity!

C.H. Spurgeon wrote:

I write this with all reverence: God Himself cannot deliver a person who is not in trouble.  Therefore, it is to some advantage to be in distress, because God can then deliver you.  Even Jesus Christ, the Healer of me, cannot heal a person who is not sick.  Therefore, sickness is not an adversity for us, but rather an advantageous opportunity for Christ to heal us.  The point is, my reader, your adversity may prove your advantage by offering occasion for the display of divine grace.

Spurgeon on Prayer and Spiritual Warfare

Pray your husband will put his hope in God’s unfailing love ({s 147:11) not the hope of no more trials.

Pray your husband will stand firm against the attacks of the devil (Eph 6:12)

Pray your husband will be obedient in spite of trials (Ps 112:4)

Pray your husband will learn to cry out to God as David did. (Ps 55:16-18)

 

Here is Amy’s thoughts on this chapter.  Praying His Trials

Prayer Challenge Day 12; Praying for His Protection

When praying for ones protection, I have learned that there are 3 main areas to pray for protection.

Physical

Emotional

Spiritual

Praying for physical protection

Psalm 91:11 says, “For he will command his angels concerning you
       to guard you in all your ways
.”

How comforting it is to know that God commands his angels concerning us. His angels are there to protect us.  I love praying for the angels that the Lord has commanded to see after my husband and children.  I love hearing the stories of the “near misses”  my husband has experienced while driving or in other circumstances.  We both know that the Lord’s protection is responsible for my husbands safety.

Praying for  emotional protection

Isaiah 26:3, You will keep in perfect peace  him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you.

Pray protection over your husband’s mind.  Ask the Holy Spirit to guard again frustration, doubt & depression.  Even in the midst of difficult circumstances, your husband can experience perfect peace if his mind is steadfast on the Lord.

Praying for spiritual protection 

Ephesians 6:10-12, Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power.  Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

Pray for spiritual protection that the Holy Spirit would protect your husband from the the schemes and from personal attacks of the Devil .  He is on the attack & if your husband has a close relationship with the Lord, he is at the top of the Devils list.

What a blessing it is when we can see the evidence of God’s protection in you and your husband’s life.

Prayer Challenge Day 10; Praying for His Choices

Chapter 10 in The Power of a Praying Wife is about your husband’s choices.

Often as the wife, we like to think that we can help our husband make better choices.  Doesn’t it feel good to us when our husband changes his mind based on something we told him?  It is important to remember that ” God is the only one who can give true discernment.” (Power of a Praying Wife pg.100)  I cannot be my husband’s Holy Spirit, but I can pray that the Holy Spirit will give my husband the discernment he needs to make wise choices.

Scripture is very clear in giving us a picture of what the wise man looks like versus a foolish man.

Wise Man

  • Listens to wise council (Proverbs 1:5)
  • Looks to the Lord for guidance. (Proverbs. 3:7)
  • Fears the Lord. (Proverbs 1:7)
  • Delights in reading adn studying the Word. (Psalm 1:1)
  • Seeks wisdom above all earthly things. (Proberbs 8:10-11)
  • Humbles himself and repents of his sin(2 Chronicles 7:14)

Foolish Man

  • hates knowledge (Proverbs 1:29-31)
  • dispises wisdom and discipline (Proverbs 1:7)
  • Keeps the wrong kind of company (Psalm 1:1)
  • Listens to the council of the wicked (Psalm 1:1)
  • Does not delight in the Word, has no interest in it. (Psalm 1:2)
  • Calls evil good. (Isaiah 5:20-25)

If your husband is considered wise according to scripture, not the world, then praise the Lord daily for this gift.  Pray that he will continue to trust in the Lord (Proverbs 3:5-6) , humble himself and seek the Lord in all he does. (2 Chronicles 7:14)

If your husband is not making wise choices, cover him in prayer.  What a gift to him to have a wife praying on his behalf.  Seek the prayers of close friends and invite them to join you in praying for your husband.

Your husband’s choices don’t just affect him, but your whole family also.

  • Pray patiently and faithfully. (Romans 12:12) You can’t make your husband choose wisely, but you can pray.
  • Pray that God will put wise, godly men in your husband’s life.
  • Pray that your husband will be teachable and will listen to wise council.
  • Pray that the Lord will break your husband’s spirit.  This is really tough to do.  But if you read & follow the lives of the righteous in scripture, you will read that those that God used were first broken and humbled.  Paul is a great example of this (Read the book of Acts).  This process is never easy and never feels good, but necessary if God is going to use us and we are going to have the wisdom needed to make wise choices.

Wise choices are made by those who know the Lord and seek to please him only.  Those who seek their own good will rarely make wise choices.

Pray that your husband will seek the Lord in all he does and desire to please him above all else.

Prayer Challenge Day 11; Praying for His Health

If you are just now joining us in our 30 day challenge to pray for our husbands…GREAT! Welcome & I know you will be blessed.   You can also go to Dandelion Seeds where my friend Amy is blogging through this challenge also.  She started it & has some excellent thoughts on it.

Today’s post is on chapter 11, His Health.

Praise the LORD, O my soul,
       and forget not all his benefits-who forgives all your sins
       and heals all your diseases

Psalm 103:2,3

This chapter is focused on our husband’s health.  If you have a husband who does not have the greatest good health habits then I think we first must pray for him concerning this, but we also should live by example to them.

It is hard to convince my husband that he needs to cut down on soda when I drink them all day also.  I think that it is too easy to see how others should change and not see how we also can change.  Here are just a few things we can do ourselves that will hopefully help our husbands also.

  • Drink plenty of water.  Put the soda and artifically flavored drinks away and drink water instead.  It is amazing to me how many things I normally crave, I don’t crave when I am drinking lots of water.

  • Eat lot’s of raw fruit & veggies.  Offer fruit for breakfast in addition to what they normally eat.  Offer raw veggies through a salad or by themselves with the meal.  I am always surprised and what my husband will eat & enjoy when it is offered.

  • Take a walk & invite him to go with you.

When all else fails, pray.  NO!  In addition to praying, live by example.

Concerning chronic illness and praying for healing; I have two friends in my church who have recently lost their husbands.  Both women are in their late 50’s and their husbands were early 60’s.   Both of these women lived with and cared for their husbands while they battled cancer.  It was a difficult rod to travel, but both of these women did it with such great faith.  They prayed that their husbands would be healed of the cancer, but they both knew that the healing could possible not be here on Earth, but be found in Heaven.  I know that they wanted to have at least 20 more years with their husbands, but I know these women and I know that they knew that God had a plan for their husband.  That plan is what they wanted and they trusted the Lord with that.

I don’t know the pain of watching my husband suffer from a chronic illness nor do I know the pain and agony of losing my husband to death.  I pray that I would be found faithful to my God if I had to experience this.

I do pray that my husband would be strengthened physically so that he can continue to live an active and full life.  I pray that I can help him to eat the right foods by preparing them for him and I pray that I will live by example a life that is pleasing to the Lord.

Praise the Lord that we can find healing either here on earth of in Heaven.

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

3-2-1 Biscuits



A friend of mine brought biscuits to a meeting we had this past year & they were the best I had ever had. Up until now, my biscuits were just from a baking mix. I didn't like making them from scratch because there just seem to be too many ingredients. Not so with these 3-2-1 Biscuits. My kids love these. They are not the most healthy, but very delicious!

Recipe
3 Tablespoons of sugar
2 cups of Self Rising Flour(not all purpose)
1 cup of Heavy Whipping Cream (the not so healthy part)

Mix together, roll out to about 1/2 inch thick. Cut. I use the top of a coffee mug because I don't have a biscuit cutter. But for your kids I bet they would like fun shapes from a cookie cutter.
Bake 400 degrees for about 15 minutes. Just watch them & smell them. When they smell real good & are browning on top, they should be done.

We love putting a little butter & strawberry preserves in the middle of ours. No gravy needed!

Enjoy!

Prayer Challenge Day 9; Praying for His Purpose

Today we read chapter 9 of Power of a Praying Wife and read the importance of our husbands knowing their God given purpose.

To be very honest & transparent with you, I have to admit that I really struggle with this.  Up until a few years ago my husband was very confidant in what he thought God’s purpose for him was.  His purpose was all wrapped up in his occupation.  Then God took that away and now my husband struggles with knowing what God’s purpose for him is.  I have struggled with encouraging him in this because I don’t know what his purpose is either.

Years ago, we taught our kids parts of the Westminster Catechism.  The very first question is, “What is man’s chief end?”  The answer is what my father taught me as a little girl.

“Man’s chief end is to glorify God.”

That just means that our purpose is the glorify God in all we do and say.  That is why we are here, to show others a glimpse of what our God is like through the way we love them and relate to them and hopefully he will draw them to Him.

But what happens when the day in and day out purpose is not so clear.  We are to glorify God in all we do. What are we supposed to be doing?  That is where my husband and I are at right now. We continue to pray and believe that God will reveal his plan and purpose to us, but the waiting is a killer!

Stormie Omartian wrote in this chapter that whatever your husband is called to do, you are called there also.  Do you support him in what he is doing?

I have seen pastor’s wives that have said, “That is his ministry”.  How sad is that?  She separated herself from that to do her “own thing”.  If God is calling your husband into a new job or maybe a ministry, you are being called there also, support him and encourage him.

This morning I prayed Philippians 1:17-19 for my husband.

I ask—ask the God of our Master, Jesus Christ, the God of glory—to make you intelligent and discerning in knowing him personally, your eyes focused and clear, so that you can see exactly what it is he is calling you to do, grasp the immensity of this glorious way of life he has for his followers, oh, the utter extravagance of his work in us who trust him—endless energy, boundless strength!

The Message

I asked the Lord to show my husband clearly what his purpose for him is.  I asked that my husband’s eyes would be open, focused & clear.  I asked that he would help me to see it too so that I could encourage & support him in whatever it is.  I prayed that my husband would have a renewed excitement for what the Lord is preparing to do.  We can get so worn down in the waiting.

Dear one, I hope that you are experiencing a change in your heart towards your Lord & towards your husband as you pray for him everyday.  Our God is at work among his people and he needs us to remain in constant conversation with him.  He needs us on our knees as wives in intercession for our husbands.  We live in scary times and our husbands need us on our knees for them.

Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Prayer Challenge Day 8; Praying for His Fears

OK, I think I am caught up now.  It took blogging two chapters in one day, but my little ones are sleeping in a bit, so I am taking advantage of the time the Lord is giving me.

 

Today we read chapter 8, His Fears.  I love how she had us pray for our husband’s mind before we pray for his fears.  Understanding the importance of a sound mind full of the truths of God’s Word is laying the foundation of understanding the danger of having a long list of fears.

The scripture tells us that there is only one righteous fear and that is the fear of the Lord(Luke 12:5).  That does not mean that we are to be afraid of God as we are afraid of falling off a cliff or something else that threatens our life.  Instead we are to respect and reverence the Lord and understand that He is Sovereign and in control of ALL that happens in our life.  Not one things happens to us that is a surprise to him.  How wonderful a truth that is to cling to.

2 Timothy 1:7 reminds us that God does not give us the spirit of fear, so if we are constantly fearful and anxious we must recognize the source of our fear…Satan.

Fears are like ugly wallpaper.  No matter how hard you try to cover it up, it will always be there until you replace it.  How do we replace our fears?  We replace our fears with the Word of God.  There is no other way.  No counselors or therapists or drugs or even dark chocolate.  The Word of God is the only way to replace our fears. We must learn to meditate on them, memorize them and apply them to our lives.

 

If your husband is struggling with fears, pray that he will recognize the source of his fears.  Pray that he will immerse himself in the promises of the Lord.  Pray that the strongholds that are holding him in bondage will be broken.

In the back of chapter 8 there are several wonderful scriptures listed that can be prayed.  Many of these are my favorites when I see fear creeping in.  If you don’t have the book the scripture references are listed below.

Psalm 34:7

Psalm 34:4

Psalm 23:4

Isaiah 41:10

Psalm 27:1

2 Timothy 1:7

Prayer Challenge Day 7; Praying for His Mind

Chapter 7 of The Power of a Praying Wife is all about praying for your husband’s mind. 

The mind often becomes Satan’s playground.  When the mind is weak and not filled with God’s truth and promises, Satan can use our circumstances to create in our minds’ frustration, doubt, depression which if left alone could result in attempted suicide.

Our thoughts are important to God, not just our actions.  He knows that our actions are a result of our thoughts and obedience is never a result of negative or sinful thoughts.  In Psalm 19:14, David prays to God,

May the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.

The meditations of the heart are what you ponder & think on.  David wanted even his thoughts to be pleasing to the Lord.

It is so important that we pray for our husband’s mind.  Especially if your husband in experiencing difficult circumstances.  So many of our husbands are under attack either in their job, or other ways.  I have seen in our mom’s group at church how the Lord has begun a work in the hearts and minds of many of the husbands of the women who attend our group.  It has been exciting, but these husbands have all battled with depression and feelings of failure because of a job loss.  The “what if’s” can bring a man down to utter ruin if his mind is not on the Lord.  I encouraged these moms to pray for their husbands mind because a strong mind filled with the word of God is like a life preserver in the midst of a bad storm.  You may fall in the water, but you will not drown.

  • Pray that your husband is spiritually minded(Romans 8:6) not worldly minded.  He considers every thing he does through the light of scripture.
  • Pray that he will learn to capture every thought that is not of God and throw it out. (2Corinthians 10:5)  Remember in 2 Timothy 1:7 that God does not give us the spirit of fear, but of sound mind.(my paraphrase)
  • Pray that he will think on that which is excellent and praiseworthy.  (Philippians 4:8)
  • Pray that your husband will love the Lord with all his mind.(Mark 12:30)  This leaves no room for fear or doubt in his mind.

Just like Stormie reminded us, the power of praying the Word is massive in our prayer life!  I can’t stress to you enough how powerful it is to pray the words of God back to Him.  There is strength and authority in his words because he wrote them.  His word is alive. 

I want to leave you with one of my favorite quotes by Oswald Chambers.

"Fill you mind with the thought that God is there. And once your mind is truly filled with that thought, when you experience difficulties it will be easy as breathing for you to remember, my heavenly Father knows all about this! Therefore, you can rest in perfect confidence in Him."

Monday, June 8, 2009

Prayer Challenge Day 6: Praying; His Temptations

This weekend was my oldest daughter’s  High School graduation party, so I didn’t post anything on Saturday.  I was busy getting ready for her party.  So I am a day behind, but will try to get caught up.

 

Day 6 in our challenge to pray for our husbands we  focus our prayers on temptation.  When I hear something like this I often view temptations as something like what is listed in Galatians 5:19-21.  This scripture is in the back of chapter 6 of our book, The Power of a Praying Wife.

Galatians 5:19-21; When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God.

The Message translation has very interesting view of this scripture.

A temptation is something that lures you away from something else.  It is enticement, allurement.  In the life of a believer, a temptation is something that will lure us away from the Lord.  It will appear to be better than, more exciting than, and easier than the ways of the Lord.  This is why God does not tempt us, why would he want to lure us away from him?  He wants us with him always and forever.

Galatians 5:19-21  is speaking of things that happen when we choose to succumb to temptation and walk in the flesh.  But I know that there are others not mentioned in the passage and the better you know your husband the more aware you are of his temptations. When you pray, be specific in these areas.

 

When I am stressed by my circumstances, I want to eat, preferably chocolate, but any type of junk food will do.  I never crave a salad when I am stressed out.  This weekend I had one of those days.  While preparing for Ashley’s party, I found out that I would now have company for lunch.  So, not only did I need to prepare food for 50 plus people, I had to clean my house & prepare a meal for my company.  I was stressed.  I wanted chocolate.  If you follow me on Twitter or Facebook, you may have seen my little update, “A bit stressed..need dark chocolate”.  I was convicted that it wasn’t chocolate I needed, but time with the Lord.  I needed to breathe deeply in His promises, not eat chocolate. 

This verse continued to come to my mind throughout the day.

For the Lord your God is living among you.
      He is a mighty savior.
   He will take delight in you with gladness.
      With his love, he will calm all your fears.
      He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.”

Zephaniah 3:17

It helped so much to remind me that with HIS love, he will calm my fears.

Your husband may struggle with temptations that are damaging to your marriage, his life or the lives of others, or he may struggle with temptations that may seem small, but they are still temptations.  They are all serious because they entice us away from the Lord and distract us from our focus on Him.

In Stormie’s prayer on page 77, she prayed that her husband would be strengthened so that he can resist temptation.  You can’t resist for him or keep him from it, only he can, but only with the strength of the Lord.  You can pray.  But like Stormie reminded us, if your husband falls for temptation that you have prayed he would resist, don’t blame yourself.  It was your husband’s decision.  Love him, encourage him and let the Lord work on him in HIS time.  God promises the faithful that there is no temptation that is too great and he will provide a way for one to endure it in 1 Corinthian 10:13.

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Be faithful in your prayers and be encouraged that there are thousands of other wives praying for their husbands also. 

 

Will you leave me a comment & let me know how participating in this challenge has changed your view of prayer or how it has impacted your life so far.  I would love to hear from you!

Friday, June 5, 2009

Prayer Challenge, Day 5; Praying for his Affections

In our readings today, we read a story about a couple who showed no affection in their marriage with the exception of sex. I personally cannot imagine what this would be like, but I think some of you readers can.  The personal rejection felt can create such a deep emotional wound.

This is one area of our marriage we have never had issues with.  In fact, our kids often ask us to “get a room” if we are hugging or kissing in front of them.  It is never passionate affection, just good old fashioned kissing.  We hold hand often, as often as we can.  If Scott walks past me, he usually kisses me on the cheek, pats my shoulder or even better pinches my bottom.  That really makes the kids squeal.  The point is, our children understand that this type of affection is ONLY appropriate in a marriage relationship.  It is part of it.

Scott & I also have an unspoken rule between the two of us.  We must tell each other “I love you” at least once a day, and we much kiss at least once a day(that one is easy).  It is amazing to us how many times we are going about our day & will realize late in the day we have not told each other we love them.  Even when I am mad at him, I say it…because it is true!

In chapter 5, I like how each person in the story took their problem to their prayer partners.  That is so strengthening to allow others to pray for you and hold you accountable.  It is important that we run to the Lord in all things, but what a blessing it is when he has placed godly people in our lives who can pray for us and encourage us.  If you don’t have anyone like that, ask the Lord to give you someone.  He will, he knows how important the encouragement & comfort of others is to us.

If you are married to a man who struggles with giving affection, your prayers & not your complaining is what he needs.  The example given by Patti and Tom is biblical.  There may be some areas of your life that the Lord needs to clean up before he begins to work on your husband.  Be available to this so that you can experience marriage as God created it to be.

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Thursday, June 4, 2009

Day 4 of Prayer Challenge; Praying for his Sexuality

I have had a really hard time waking up this week.  Our school is over for the summer & my mom ministry is taking a break, so I guess I settled into lazy mode.  But, this morning I woke up early & was feeling so excited because I just knew I would finally get not just my prayer time in, but my Bible Study also before anyone woke up.  About the time I got my coffee and sat down at my desk guess who came flying into my room at 7:30?  Yes, that is right, my sweet little Sam; the wild little 2 1/2 yr old.  He never wakes up this early!

Needless to say, I didn’t get my prayer time in at all.  I did read the chapter though for today, Praying for his Sexuality.  Stormie wastes no time in getting down to business in having us pray for the biggie’s in our husband’s life.  This topic may seem uncomfortable to some of us to discuss, but it is very important to God.  He wrote about it in several places in the scriptures.  Read the book of Song of Solomon, it only has 8 chapters.  1 Corinthians 7 & Proverbs 5 are another good place to start.  God designed your husband with needs that only you can fill.  I hope that as you pray for your husband in this area that you will be available to God in meeting these needs.

I have some other resources to recommend to you today instead of a post.

Creative Counterpart by, Linda Dillow (specifically chapter 10, Creative Lover)

She writes;

Remember, special times together are important and cannot be stressed enough, but the most important thing is your attitude.  Does your husband know you are available and excited about him as your lover?  God gave him to you as your beloved and our friend.  Let him in on the secret!

Reading Your Male; An Invitation to Understand and Influence Your Man’s Sexuality by Mary Farrar (wife of Steve Farrar)

This is a great book!  I highly recommend it.  Mary writes concerning understanding our husbands sexuality;

Men are encoded from conception to process their emotions in a fundamentally different way than women.  And this is by God’s purposeful design.  When a man’s natural propensity is combined with a healthy ability to express and identify feelings, he becomes a powerful force for good in this world.  His wiring becomes an asset and a gift, enabling him to rise to his manly calling and to accomplish the tasks that God has designed him to do.

Consider the blessing of God’s innate wiring of our men:

  • A man’s wiring enables him to separate out his feelings.
  • A man’s role of protection and provision requires that he submerge his feelings.
  • The sex act itself an emotional expression for a man, and when he is healthy emotionally, it draws him into intimacy.

Amy, the author of this prayer challenge, has written a great post concerning today’s chapter.  Read her new challenge at Dandelion Seeds and her thoughts concerning this chapter are here.

 

The Generous Wife has great tips daily on how to love on your husband.  You can subscribe & receive these daily tips in your inbox.  They are short & sweet, but very meaningful to your husband.

Today’s tip is;

I don't know what it is about baked goodies that blesses the soul, but they can make anyone's day a little nicer.  So bake up and serve your husband a nice batch of warm cookies or some good bread (or whatever he likes).

Good bread is the most fundamentally satisfying of all foods; good bread with fresh butter, the greatest of feasts! James Beard

Be generous!  Lori <><

 

As I have mentioned in earlier posts, when we pray for our husbands, our hearts are changed and we begin to view our husband in a whole new way.  Your husband may notice a change in you and respond in a delightful way.  Get ready. :)

 

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Prayer Challenge Day 3; Praying for his finances

Today is day 3 of our 30 day challenge of praying for our husbands.  We are using the book, Power of a Praying Wife, and as I read in this book I can’t help but remember the first time I read the book and how the Lord has answered my prayers for my husband since then.  I praise the Lord daily for the work he has done in my husband and for the work he continues to do.  But I also cannot ignore the work that He has done in my own life since then. The Lord has his work cut out for Him and I’m so thankful that He is faithful in His work in my life.  As I commit to pray for my husband, I anticipate an even deeper change to occur in my own heart.

 

childphil413 Today, we are praying for our husband & his finances.  Just as in his work, so much of what is important to our men is based on the condition of his finances.  Their self worth is often based on this.  God gave gave them the desire to work & provide for their families.  Sadly, our society has placed so much importance on our material worth that Christians have been washed over by this & we blend right in with the world’s way of thinking and doing things.  I’m not saying it is wrong to have things, but I think we have been deceived by what is a want and what is a need.  There are many things that we often think we need, but in all reality, we could live with out.  These things are not crucial for our survival.

 

harvest_luke12_2931If your husband seems very driven by his finances, to the point you know that his desires are not of the Lord, pray for his heart to be drawn to the Lord.  Pray that his eyes will be open to the fact that his self worth is not in his money, but in his God. But DO NOT tell your husband what you think he should do with his money or changes you think he should make.  Be careful to not try and be your husband’s Holy Spirit.  If your husband is a believer, the Holy Spirit is perfectly capable of changing your husband’s heart & mind all by his self. :)

 

 

One thing struck me as I was praying this morning was to ask the Lord what I can actively do to use our finances in a way that honors Him.

What am I doing now that is wasteful with our money?

What am I doing that shows my husband that I appreciate the money that he does make? 

Do I have a way to make money without compromising my current duties and responsibilities at home?

What am I teaching my children concerning our finances?  Do you always say, “We can’t afford that.” or do you tell them, “We choose not to use our money like that.”  There is a difference.  Let your children know that how we use our money is important and meant to be used to God’s glory. No matter how much money we have or don’t have, we try to impress on our children that it is a gift from God and to be used with great care.

As you pray for your husband, be open to the prompting of the Holy Spirit as to how you can change your ways also.  If your husband is careless with the finances, be on guard against becoming bitter towards him.  That can deeply injure your relationship with him.  Just pray for him & let the Lord take care of the rest.  He created the world in 6 days, He can accomplish a great work in your husband.

 

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Prayer Challenge Day 2; Praying for his Work

If you are participating in the prayer challenge, this morning we read chapter 2 of Power of a Praying Wife on our husbands work.  God created our husbands with a drive to provide for their family.  For some husbands this drive is taken to the extreme and they become workaholic’s.

I have a friend whose husband can set his own hours in his job.  He could be home anytime he wants to be home, yet he chooses to work late almost every night.  He doesn’t see his kids much at all and though they are still very small, they are growing up quickly.  There was a time when my husband worked much like this.  We were farming at the time so the season did dictate his hours, but there were many times of the year when he didn’t have to work late, but did.  My husband says that he realized one day how much of our children’s lives he was missing out on.  He is reclaiming that time with them now that they are teenagers.  It is a great thing to see the close relationship he has with our older children.

I remember the first time I read through this book & I prayed this prayer for my husband concerning his work.  He had a very different view of his work than he does now.  It was when he worked long hours, he did everything he could to make sure he was making enough money for our family and doing a great job at it.  His work was very important to him & I felt many times that his work was more important than I was or our children.  I prayed that the Lord would draw my husband close to him & show him what is really important in the kingdom of God. 

Not too long after that his business began to decline.  He didn’t change what he did, yet he didn’t have as many clients.  There was no good reason why his business was so slow.  He eventually had to let his personal assistant go.  We struggled to pay our bills each month.  My husband was stressed beyond the limit as he began to realize that ultimately everything is in God’s control.  He brings the business, he takes away the business, not Scott.

couple-in-love-lifestyle-people-couple-couples-~-f0008291 3 years later, we are still struggling financially.  My husband is now looking for any kind of work so we can pay our bills.  We have reduced our expenses drastically.  But the difference now is that my husband in deeply in love with his Lord & Savior.  In the midst of all our difficult circumstances, my husband as grown to seek the wisdom and direction of his God.  We don’t know what the Lord has in store for us. But we are joyful in our hope that it will be something fantastic.

 

Today, if your husband has a secure job, be thankful & praise your God daily for that.  It is a rare thing to know ones job is secure.  Let your husband know how thankful you are that he is able to provide for your family.  Use the ‘P’ word a lot…proud.  “I’m proud of you” says more to them than “I love you”. 

If your husband is like mine and has a full time job of looking for a job, it is a bit harder to encourage him.  Your husband is frustrated and probably dealing with depression at times.  Your prayers for your husband are crucial! I often don’t know what to pray because I feel like I have already prayed it a hundred times.  Ask your husband.  He may be able to tell you how you can pray for him, but many times they are so frustrated with their circumstances they don’t know either.  Ask the Lord how you can pray for your husband.  He knows!

Some things I pray often for my husband;

  • protect his mind from doubt & frustration
  • bring godly men into his life that can encourage him like I can’t.
  • give him wisdom & understanding when he studies the Word.
  • strengthen him so that he can endure these difficult times.
  • give me the right words to say so that I may build him up, not tear him down.

One of the “Power Tools” given in chapter 1 was Galatians 6:9

Let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.

You may be praying the same prayer for a long time, but in God’s perfect timing He will answer.  Be satisfied with his answer.  As you pray, I suspect that something will begin to change in your heart.  I experienced a renewal of my love for my husband after spending some quality time praying for him.  Prayer is powerful.  Your prayers for your husband won’t change him, but instead they will change you as God changes your husband.  It is an amazing thing!

 

Pray continually

1 Thessalonians 5:17

 

Monday, June 1, 2009

Are You a Praying Wife?

 

praying_in_the_spirit[1] How often do you pray for your husband? 

I am ashamed to admit that I do not pray for my husband enough.  He should be at the top of my list everyday.  He is my husband, next to God he is the most important person in my life.

My friend Amy on Facebook has challenged all of us to pray for our husbands for 30 days in a row using Stormie Omartian’s book, The Power of a Praying Wife.  I have accepted her challenge & encourage you to do the same.  It starts today, June 1st.  But even if you do not read this post until after that date, you can start your own 30 days anytime.

The challenge is very simple.  You will need the book, The Power of a Praying Wife

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This is what Amy writes to us about this challenge…

WHAT YOU'LL DO: Read a chapter a day FOR 30 DAYS, which includes a prayer. (Even if you've read this book before, you can just do the prayers and skip the reading... the point is for you to PRAY!)
FYI: Daily reminders to pray for your husband will be sent out through facebook messages to you. You don't have to discuss anything (and no "spouse bashing" will be allowed) but can share if you'd like on the wall. You can also leave links to your blog posts if you make any as well. Please spread the word to others!
THE POINT: To get wives praying for their husbands... that's it! Doesn't matter what the background, denomination, or current state your life is in... Let's get those hubbies covered in prayer and stand back and expect great things to happen to them, our marriages, and even ourselves as we petition God on their behalf!
(And might I add, that if things are really bad, that this is a great time to do this! When my marriage was falling apart and my husband and I were ready to divorce, I came across this book, and it not only changed my marriage... but it changed me as well!)

If you are going to participate, let me know.  I am hoping to post daily concerning this topic.  It has been a long time since I was able to blog & I’m a little out of practice, but if all goes well you should get updates from me daily if you subscribe.

 

Let the praying begin!